This is a free country, more or less. So no, I don’t care if people decide to adopt the “child-free” lifestyle.
What bugs me is the “child-free” attitude.
Here’s the thing — the decision to go without kids wasn’t some flash of brilliant insight that you had and we parents didn’t. Yes, people who don’t have kids have more spare time. They can focus on their careers, their health, their meditation, their personal growth and their sex lives in ways that those of us whose schedule revolves around nap times cannot.
To which I say this: Duh.
It’s about choice. Those of us who decided to be parents (and were lucky enough to make it work) gave up that time to do something else we find fulfilling. Child-free folks have the freedom to do what they want. So do we. This is what we want.
If you’re child-free (voluntarily, of course), you’ve made a choice. A valid one. But smarter?
Let’s take on some of the arguments from the story I linked above:
There were larger issues too, such as environmental concerns and worries
about an overcrowded planet.
That may be a valid reason not to have five kids. But it’s not a reason to avoid having two. That’s how many it takes to replace you and yours, and it doesn’t even take into account all the people who can’t have kids.
Besides, one of the biggest problems facing this country is the economic crisis we’ll have when the number of retired people grows so large that younger folk can’t make the Social Security and Medicare payments. So in that sense, having kids actually helps to avoid future crises.
Zombie Parents from Planet Zygote
Oh, you poor poor dears. Tired of hearing your former friends babble on and on about their kids? Well, that’s what’s going on in their lives these days. Has it occurred to you that they might be bored with your endless prattle about your trip to Morocco or your convoluted sex life?
The last bit is interesting:
Forget-You-Nots: DNA-free ways of leaving a piece of yourself here on Earth after you die, like planting a tree, getting a street named after you or donating all your money to your alma mater.
Hmmmm. If you decide to spend some of your surplus free time doing good works, that’s sensible. Childless folks certainly have more time for community service and perhaps more money to donate to an alma mater. But if the whole reason you’re doing it is to get something named after you, that’s a little tougher to defend as a smart and moral choice.
And if you’re THAT impressed with yourself, then shouldn’t your genes survive?